Posts Tagged ‘Financial Obligations’
SomeRandomGuy asked:
I apologize if this is lengthy but I really need a second opinion before I lose my mind. I’m a 23 year old recent college grad, have been dating my girlfriend (21) for almost a year. We have a fantastic relationship and I can predict it will last into marriage. She is still finishing up her 3rd year at school while i’m pocketing 52k a year at my job working like an animal. She also lives with her parents and pays for basically a phone bill and gas and nothing much else. I pay for my car payments,insurance, etc. etc. etc. (I live with family right now but moving out soon). When we go out and do things, I’d say that 99% of the time I front the bill because Im a gentleman and thats how I was raised. However, recently i’ve been getting bitter and resentfull that she doesn’t offer to pay for the SMALLEST of things which are proportionate to her budget…for example…a movie rental ($5)…ice cream ($7) and it makes me feel …well, used. I spoke to her and she got offended. Says shes broke
She did pay $600 of her birthday money to pay for our drink bill and excrusions on a cruise we took last month, but thats about it. To me its not a money issue,its an idea of reciprication (spelling,sorry). She makes less,i understand that, but she doesnt have even $10 a month to pay for a movie? She says she has $600 in debt…but that shouldnt be my obligation! I’m not a savings plan right? We’re not married…so I would just like some women’s advice on this. Am i irrational? Am i being cheap?
I apologize if this is lengthy but I really need a second opinion before I lose my mind. I’m a 23 year old recent college grad, have been dating my girlfriend (21) for almost a year. We have a fantastic relationship and I can predict it will last into marriage. She is still finishing up her 3rd year at school while i’m pocketing 52k a year at my job working like an animal. She also lives with her parents and pays for basically a phone bill and gas and nothing much else. I pay for my car payments,insurance, etc. etc. etc. (I live with family right now but moving out soon). When we go out and do things, I’d say that 99% of the time I front the bill because Im a gentleman and thats how I was raised. However, recently i’ve been getting bitter and resentfull that she doesn’t offer to pay for the SMALLEST of things which are proportionate to her budget…for example…a movie rental ($5)…ice cream ($7) and it makes me feel …well, used. I spoke to her and she got offended. Says shes broke
She did pay $600 of her birthday money to pay for our drink bill and excrusions on a cruise we took last month, but thats about it. To me its not a money issue,its an idea of reciprication (spelling,sorry). She makes less,i understand that, but she doesnt have even $10 a month to pay for a movie? She says she has $600 in debt…but that shouldnt be my obligation! I’m not a savings plan right? We’re not married…so I would just like some women’s advice on this. Am i irrational? Am i being cheap?